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ayA3r4
No.3066
pyaare anons, i have a question
i am a kalej student in [REDACTED].
I have a habit of making small talks with anyone i interact. Because of this, way too many people know me(canteen staff, cleaning staff, classmates from previous years, people from different branches). I dont know how to talk to women.
So, as soon as i step of out my hostel, i am able to find someone who knows me. I usually just ask people surface level questions and never try to get to know them deeply(?) because i am a selfish person(my dad thinks so and i think he is right). My mother think i am a very naive person. Also i have been told that it is very easy to approach and talk with me.
I also have poor social skills so i am always the "quiet one" among my social circle but if anyone of my acquaintances step out with me inside/outside the campus, they are always impressed with just how my people come to talk with me or shake my hand, Also i am unable to utilise this habit of small talks for any personal or financial gain due to moralfaggotry and not having the knowhow to do so.
With all the context out of the way, please tell me whether i should try to stop this or continue?
It's not like i gain anything from doing this right?
+czb1S
No.3067
>With all the context out of the way, please tell me whether i should try to stop this or continue?
You're a people pleaser.
It's better to stop and invest your time and energy in ONE or TWO meaningful relationships. Those people that you have small talks with? They'll forget you once you step out of college after you graduate and move on. Don't waste your time and energy on things that don't last.
