There are a certain ways of thinking that induce certain kind of feelings. This I've especially noticed with my discussions with so-called "Blackpillers" or "Incels". In there thinking, missing out on teenage love is the greatest misery of all ,or, as they like to put it, "You'll never have this". Let's analyse this example deeply. First, is it even worth experiencing? In my view (and that is objective view) there is nothing special about teenage love. Billions of people have lived on this planet and a significant number of those have experienced "teenage love". So does that mean they are something special? Obviously No. Or even I'd say it's the other way around not experiencing it is unique (less frequent) because vast majority of people do. And even if I keep all this "specialness" BS aside. I don't particularly believe that the people who have experienced teenage love have elevated human experience ,or in other words, lived their life more fully. Because all the pleasure that is induced by "Teenage love" can easily be replicated by drugs or escorts, or some other means. But in their views, it can not be substituted. So in a way due to their thinking they miss out on equally pleasurable experiences. (I am not advocating for drugs or escort but we can all agree that there must be some experiences which are somewhat comparable to teenage love). So why can't Incels change their thinking? Maybe it is neuroplasticity. But there is another reason and that is wanting to change. When you are so adamant about having something there is not much that can be done to convince the person that the thing he wants is not worth having other than having it. It is like a kid who is adamant about having a remote controlled car. In his view that is the greatest thing to have and he cannot ever think about living happily without getting a remote controlled car. The only way to quench his thirst is giving him a remote controlled car. And after sometime he will realize there is nothing special about a remote controlled car. The same thing can be said for height, teenage love or marriage. That is why most tall people say height is not important, and people who have experienced teenage love say there is nothing special about it. So why can't a person who has not experienced it feel this way? For me I was also a culprit of thinking that way. But one of my close friends experienced teenage love (which again contributes to the fact that it is a common thing because I don't have many close friends). And he was close enough that I could peak into his life. And all I saw was pathetic. There is nothing special about it. Case closed.