/adv/ - Advice

I've been crying every night since the last week. I just can't make friends. It's been 2 months since college began. I already knew i would struggle with this one. Used to sit alone in school during lunch breaks. Used to sit alone in coaching, was the kid who was dunked on by everyone in my socitey. But then atleast I had my parents to fall back on. Now in college they're gone too. They call everyday but I can't even tell them their son locks the room and cries his heart out everyday. What sort of parent would like such a loser

I've watched every video on how to fix my situation. Watched David goggins, got into the you're into this alone arch, need no one to be there. Surfed quroa, read about how one self should be able to find solace in solitude. Watched so many guides, so many opinions on how to be there how to socialise. But it all only sounds great in the head. As soon as I step outside I find myself singled out in a room of 50

Often in such precarious situations my coping mechanism kicks in. I put ear buds on so atleast people think oh he's listening to songs. I open the DMs of the online frends I had years ago who never showed up back again so they'll think oh he must be engaged elsewhere. Must have a lot of frends online. No I don't

I've consumed 3 paracetamols at once in a depressive impulse which didn't kill me but made my day even more miserable. I cant kill myself nor I can kill this chronic disease I've had for 18 years of my life. I wish to be normal

>>712(OP)

Lmao ,kya rr hai paracetamol kha ke mat marna yr mil jayenge log

>>712(OP)

>I've consumed 3 paracetamols at once in a depressive impulse which didn't kill me but made my day even more miserable.

Don't take rushed up life choices like these anon, I know life is not very kind to you, but try to make best with what life has given you. We don't get to choose how we were born, just what we make of it. Be patient, things always get better.

>>712(OP)

You need help in social situations.

I would suggest talk to a counselor if you can. You can join a hobby group or study group where you're forced to interact with others.

Take interest in what other people are doing as well.

>>712(OP)

Can you do basic Convo? Do you look normal (not fat and neanderthal) and can groom yourself ? Are you in sm place where majority ppl are of your ethnicity and language? If yes then I don't see the problem

This is going to sound shitty but maybe you can never be normal. This realization will make you accept that all those bullshit toxic positivity garbage videos you see on youtube won't work on you, those are for normies.

You need "systems" that you need to build around yourself. Think of your impaired social skills like you don't have a leg. You can use a crutch or a wheelchair to move around. You need a similar system. I don't know what it is, but you have to find out something that is SPECIFIC to the environment you are in.

College is most often the place where you realize the lie that gets sold when you were a child, that everyone are equal, and that if only everyone tried hard enough, things will get better, except... it won't.

>>712(OP)

You have to fix your life anon. Trust me, my life was also shit. And it still kinda is. I too have cried a lot in school after realising how bad my social life was, especially compared to others. I thought that college would be it, that i will finally have a good life. I planned a lot.

But nah. The problem, was, i just didnt put myself out there. The first thing i would do after class ended was run back to my room. Didnt talk much to others. Didnt join any club, sports, nothing. Now i am in my final year and its too late. Friend groups have solidified, and most people are focused on their career more than anything else.

So dont repeat my mistake. It doesnt matter what yt videos you watch, what books you read, who you follow. The only thing that matters is what you do. Just talk to people. You have to just do things .

Observe what others talk about and how they do it, and repeat that. Never turn down any invitation anywhere. Dont think they are just inviting me to study or somwthing, so i wont go since it isnt for socialising or i am not interested. Most often people just use that as pretext. You should also invite and initiate stuff on your own. Join any club. Any sport. Even low effort ones like chess if physical effort is hard. Basically just hang around people as much as possible, no matter how embarassing/boring/annoying/anything that can be.

Just do something. Two months isnt that late. I have seen friend groups form till the first year ends. After that its still possible but a lot harder. You are in a race against time anon. Good luck

>>712(OP)

i was a loner till 5th grade but i made freinds when i was in 6th and talked to some (by the way I am a nigger)s in class about human reproductive process.yk how silly middle schoolers are they were like khe khe khe hes just like us he knows about adult stuff post that i always manage to make freinds wherever i go though they do be limited my freind group in college is of like 7 people and it all started with me wiritng some arpit bala meme refrence on the clasroom wall ig you gotta talk to people anon unles you smell bad they wont shoo you away

>>712(OP)

Why do you want to interact with pajeets so bad?

I have been lonely my whole life, but I found out about 4chan around 2019..and that is when the pajeet hate was cooking so I took the pajeets are subhuman pill and life just got so much better, I used to go to college and not really interact with anyone and just do my own thing, come back to my room and focus on my shit. You might argue saying I missed out on pajeetivites like drinking, socializing, having sex or getting a gf but I would never hangout with a subhuman pajeet. I honestly feel like the only reason I have a job right now is because I was grinding during college and not taking part in pajeetivities.

Even at work, I pretend to be friendly to everyone and smile and their faces and ask about what they did during their weekends or tell them to show me pictures from their recent vacation, it is all a facade. Even going out of my house and looking at my environment which is filled with dysgenic pajeets disgusts me to my core. I try my hardest not to leave my home and usually get everything I need delivered.

stop being a tryhard, retard. you will only end up being a punching bag in every group, if you can fit in then fine otherwise dont bother and stop being in "groups", you dont have to be in group to do anything in life. find some pursuit, dont end up being a retarded shut-in hustler, if you have money and considering you live in hostel, just go out of campus alone in safe timings and explore city. you will realize eventually, you are just "this" way and you will be better off being content with this way. its nothing bad. personally i would have explored delhi if i had money but i am too broke and a dayscholar with cheap maabaap who cant shell out some cash on me. i dont bother asking about money from them anymore just for travel for kalej, that's it. i never fit in any group but one thing i made sure, i wasnt any dirty punching bag for anyone cause i see there is always one faggot who is a bag of group. my advice is simple, stop seeking what doesnt feel organic to you. ask yourself whether do you even want to soycialize like other normies and do khikhikhi all day. if yes, then keep trying it also gets better eventually otherwise live your life with your own choices.

>>712(OP)

My college begins next week

I used to go to another college before this

I failed and dropped out due to depression and anxiety

I attempted suicide and I failed

Now I am shit scared in this new college

It's in an isolated place and there are rumors of ragging

I am going to get fucked

I have prepared a rope to hang myself if shit hits the fan

It keeps me sane that if something happens I could just hang myself and die

>>714

Things never get better

They either get worse or you get used to it

>>712(OP)

which city

>>756

Generally, people will bully you if your reaction to it is funny, and/or you dont push back enough. Your best bet would be to keep a low profile until the novelty wears off...